Scott Kedersha Marriage

Dear readers,

Today’s post is different in kind than most. I’m doing three things in this post:

  1. A quick recap of the year
  2. An update and two fun announcements about Ready or Knot?
  3. Share the top 6 posts on my site this year and 6 of my favorites that didn’t make the list.

Recap of 2018

Thank you for another great year on This March will mark five years of writing, and I’m so grateful for your encouragement and support. As every year goes, 2018 has been a year filled with plenty of ups and downs, both personally and professionally. I continue to remain thankful for the opportunity to write and the creative outlet this site provides. My writing “formula” continues to be to write posts that are biblical, practical, and authentic. My plan is to never stray from this path.

I shared this sentiment in 2016 and it still rings true:

I’ve been encouraged by the ways you embrace the mess in me, and how I can continue to be honest and transparent on this site. Many of you thank me (for which I’m grateful), but I honestly believe the bigger thank you comes from me to you – for allowing me to keep it real. In the process, I hope the Lord has used the messages I’ve shared to help you grow in your relationship with your significant other, your children, your community, and most importantly, with God.

I’m back in a sweet spot in my job at Watermark—for the first time in over three years I believe I’m doing what I should be doing as I get to work with an incredible staff and leader team in helping couples all over the relational spectrum. I’m most excited about getting to focus on newlyweds and helping establish healthy marriages from day one of marriage.

If you have any comments or suggestions, please send them my way! You can reach out to me through the contact page, or you can always send me an email at

Ready Or Knot?

Ready or Knot? 12 Conversations Every Couple Needs to Have before Marriage (ROK) comes out on February 5, 2019. I’m so excited! Two quick announcements about it:

  • I’m going to have a LAUNCH TEAM of 150 folks to help spread the word and review the book before it comes out. You’ll get a free copy of the book, be a part of a private Facebook group where we can interact about ROK, and you’ll have the chance to win some fun prizes! The team will open on January 2nd—there will be a separate email and post about it when it opens up. Send me an email if you’re interested in finding out about the Launch Team.
  • If you pre-order the book before February 5th, you’ll get three great bonuses: 1) A 6-episode audio series that will feature interviews with some of the couples I interviewed for the book and some behind the scenes of Kristen and me, 2) A Guide to Thriving During the Holidays, and 3) A 7-day Prayer Guide for couples getting ready to say, “I do.” Keep your receipt and forward either the receipt or a screenshot of your receipt for your purchase of Ready or Knot? to and I’ll send you the bonuses when they come out!

It’s fun to see everything come together – thank you for your support and encouragement!

The Most Viewed Posts of 2018

10 Ways to Stay Engaged Even After You’re Married – After you say, “I do” you still need to be intentional in your marriage. This post is sort of a best of list of suggestions to help you grow in your marriage. None of it is rocket science, but you can find a few things to do to stay engaged.

How to Have Those Marriage Conversations You Need to Have – This post provides some fun and challenging questions to ask your spouse. It provides a way to help you grow and not stay stagnant in your marriage. Most couples struggle in what to ask or talk about. This simple list helps you get started or take the next step to grow deeper.

Pursuing Your Spouse in the Midst of a Full Life – I’m not surprised this one showed up since we can all relate to the challenge of pursuing our spouse in the midst of busy lives! I provide five practical ways to pursue your spouse in the midst of the chaos of a full schedule. It’s a big deal because I don’t want you to get bored or complacent with your relationship.

Why You Don’t Need Everyone to Love You – This one is the top non-marriage post on my site. Based on something I heard in The Greatest Showman, this post addresses the universal challenge of people-pleasing. I provide 9 ways to practically address your challenges with people-pleasing (preaching to myself here!).

My Favorite Books I Read in 2018 –  I love reading the lists from others and always enjoy putting my own list together every year.

10 Ways to Increase Intimacy in Your Marriage – Clearly this is a common problem for couples. I wrote this to fight back against a trend of couples sleeping in separate bedrooms—that’s not why I got married! This is a great post to discuss together with your spouse and your community.

My Favorite Posts From 2018

These are the posts that may not have been the most viewed, but I think are either most helpful or my personal favorites.

How to Change the World: Raise a Godly Young Man – I’m honestly surprised this one didn’t go viral. It’s probably my #1 favorite from this year. I believe this message to my bones.

The Underrated Virtue of Kindness in Marriage – Loved this guest post from my friend Sarah about the importance of kindness in relationships. We don’t talk about it much, but we often overlook the virtue of kindness.

A Summer Blockbuster for your Next Date Night – This one provides a fun conversation for you as a couple—what makes you unique and different from other couples, and what is one area where you might be more susceptible to struggles if you’re not careful?

What Do You Need To Know About Temptation? – This two-Part series about temptation is based a tough season I walked through as I walked alongside a friend who gave in to temptation. I often give in to my temptations as well, so it hits home for me.

Humility and the Problem with All-Stars – I loved this podcast, based on a podcast episode I heard from Adam Grant. It’s challenging for me to think of and celebrate others, and not just think of myself.

How and Why You Need to Stay Curious in Marriage – Four ways to stay curious in your marriage. Martin Luther said it well: “Let the wife make the husband glad to come home, and let him make her sorry to see him leave.” Staying curious will help you live this out.

Thanks for a great year. Happy New Year to you! And speaking of thanks, my wife continues to be an incredible helper and encourager. Kristen reads every post, continually gives feedback and more than anything, lives out what I write about. I SO married up, in every way!

Merry Christmas, and Joy to the World. See you in 2019!

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