I’ve found myself playing a game I don’t like the past few weeks. Not that I don’t love games. This one, however, I don’t really like to play. It’s a game I have to play whenever I struggle with insecurity and comparison.
You can’t buy this game at Target and Amazon won’t ship it to you. The game is called Spot the Lie, and I learned it many years ago from Watermark’s lead pastor, Todd Wagner.
Todd plays the game with his kids. The concept is simple—whenever something doesn’t seem right or promises something it can’t truly deliver, you need to spot the lie, lest you think the lie is truth.
- Snickers promises to satisfy. While it certainly does for a few short moments, the flavor quickly goes away but the calories, energy drain, and sugar crash stick around.
- Those new cars that spouses buy for each other at Valentine’s Day and Christmas? You know the ones that show up in their driveway with a big red bow on them? Those cars are awesome until the first bills come in or the newer model comes out. That new car won’t satisfy your desire for stuff and an extravagant purchase won’t fix your hurting marriage.
- The praise you get for crushing it at work, in the sermon, in the basketball game—fleeting. Great in the moment, but it goes away, replaced by the praise for another or a failure right around the corner.
- Any commercial ever made for any game or toy for your children! They look so happy in those commercials. LIES!
You Must Spot the Lie
In each of these situations, you must spot the lie so you don’t believe something that won’t ever come true.
Another way to play this game is when your brain tells you things that just aren’t right. For instance, you might tell yourself:
- I’m unlovable.
- I’m a fraud and I’m not good enough.
- Or, I’m the worst and everyone is better than me.
- My kids dislike me and my spouse and friends do too.
- This team would do better without me.
- Me, me, me, I, I, I… you get the picture.
For whatever reason, the last few weeks, I’ve really struggled with comparing myself to others. I desire their gifts, acclaim, and praise, and in the process I tear myself down and believe the lies.
Instead of losing this battle, I’ve had to play a lot of rounds of Spot the Lie. You might need to play this game as well. At some point, we all do.
6 Ways You Can Win at Spot the Lie
1. Fight the lies with truth.
Read God’s Word. Memorize scripture. Meditate on Truth. Ultimately, we can learn so much about our identity not from others, not from the world, not from the praise of man, but through God’s Word. Here are a few verses (with a brief synopsis) you might want to check out (and memorize):
- John 1:12 – You are a child of God
- 2 Corinthians 5:17 – You are a new creation.
- Genesis 1:27 – You are made in the image and likeness of God.
- Galatians 4:7 – You are a child of God and a co-heir with Christ.
- 1 Corinthians 6:19-20 – You were bought at a high price.
- Romans 8:1 – There is no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus.
Side note: You need to know the main reason I write what I write is because I need it as much, if not more, than you do. Reading these verses is good for my soul, and helps me Spot the Lie and believe Truth instead!
2. Pray for change.
Ask God to give you the wisdom you need to stop believing the lies and instead believe truth. Sometimes my brain goes crazy and spins out of control. In those moments, I ask God for His wisdom (James 1:5).
3. Listen to good songs filled with Truth.
A few I’ve listened to the last few weeks:
- Lauren Daigle’s song, “You Say.” I love this new song, and in it Daigle rightly says we should believe what God says about us.
- “Who You Say I Am” by Hillsong Worship. In this song, I’m reminded that I am a child of God, I’m chosen (by God), and I am who He says I am (not who the lies tell me I am).
- The hymn, “My Worth is Not in What I Own.” Recently recorded by Shane and Shane in their Hymns, Vol 1 album. The lyrics remind us to boast in knowing Christ, not in what we own, our wealth, might, or wisdom we posses.
4. Focus on others.
When I start to play the self-pity game, I instead choose to encourage and think of others. When I take the focus off myself, I can encourage those around me. In Romans 12, Paul reminds us to use our gifts. My gift is encouragement, and I love how Romans 12:8 says if your gift is encouragement, then encourage others! Whatever your gift is, use it/them, for the glory of God and for the good of others.
5. Fight the sin of comparison.
Too often we coddle our sin or just think it will go away. I want to fight my sin, whether it’s lust, anger, or comparison. John Owens famously said, “Be killing sin, or it be killing you.”
6. Engage others.
In those moments when I believe the lies, I want to run away and hide. I feel guilt, shame, and embarrassment, and the last thing I want to do is let others in. Rather, I know I need others to speak truth into my life, wound me with love, and encourage me. I need others to bear my burdens (Galatians 6:2) and to shine light into the darkness of my sin and lies.
You might have some other ways you have to fight the lies. Please share them below in the comments section.
On a much lighter note, I do love games. Here are three fun ones I recently started playing with friends and family.
- One Night Ultimate Werewolf – like mafia, but quicker. Great party game.
- Dutch Blitz – super fun card game. Our family loves it! “A Vondferful Goot Game.”
- Psych! – great party game you play on your iPhone. Especially fun if you know each other well. We especially like the “And the Truth Comes Out” deck.
- How do you fight the lies in your life?
- What scriptures would you add to the list above in point #1.
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